It is believed that there is no difference between a single and a divorced man, because the most important thing is that he is a man you like and you like him. But there is a difference and quite weighty. Behind shoulders, a divorced man had another woman, perhaps children, and their presence, even the unofficial one, will always affect new relationships. A divorced man has the sad experience of family relationships and knows many pitfalls.
Common Mistakes with a Divorced Man
A woman who wants to create a strong relationship with a man who has already been married, you need to choose for themselves a certain tactic of behavior, so as not to repeat the following mistakes:
- You do not have to go to your man's soul, learning the details of his family life, the reasons for divorce, the current relationship with his ex-wife. When your man realizes that the time has come to reveal the story of his past family life to you, he will tell everything himself. In case curiosity is stronger, it is worth collecting information in a roundabout way (communicate with friends, find out details from relatives).
- You can not assume that if a divorced man speaks of his ex-wife with a negative, without choosing the expression, it means that she deserved it. In this situation, it is worth considering that insulting your ex-wife, your elect may offend you in case of a break in relations. Therefore, it is worth considering whether this is your ideal chosen one.
- You can not compare yourself with his ex-wife, especially in his presence. Comparing yourself with the "former", you thereby bring him to this thought. And where is the confidence that the comparison will be in your favor?
- It is inappropriate to criticize the ex-wife and his ex-family. This is at least a sign of bad parenting. And by and large, you can insult and humiliate a man, since it raises the question of his ability to create harmonious family relationships.
- In no case can not interfere in the relationship of your chosen one with his former family, and especially with children. He must independently choose a line of conduct, and your role here is purely observing. This way possible conflicts can be avoided.
- Do not rush things. No wonder they say that having burnt on milk, they begin to blow on the water. So is a divorced man: he was already married, and now he will be careful about his new woman before offering her a “walk to the altar”. Therefore, no need to rush a man, and especially put pressure on him. So you can not lead to marriage, and to break.
- Another mistake of women is ordinary blackmail: “if you don’t marry, I’ll leave you”. But putting the question angle, we can expect that the man himself will leave. Moreover, for him it is not so difficult. If a man has survived the collapse of the family, then a break in relations will not frighten him.
Most importantly, do not remember about the former relationship. This is all in the past. To create a harmonious and long-term relationship, you need to look to the future, not the past. The past is given to us only in order to learn from it and not to repeat the mistakes of others.
